Do you remember that burst of energy that filled you when you fancied yourself in love? I mean, that “you’ve been on my mind, can’t sleep, can’t eat, can’t let you go” kind of feeling.
Most of us have had our shot with this fiery fire of lust coursing through our veins, especially during our teenage years.
It turns out I had several. A distant and much older relative, a neigbour who didn’t know I existed, and of course, Michael Jackson, even with all his weirdness. Once in a while, regardless of the years that have passed and the age that sits on our shoulders, we may find ourselves swooning over a person or falling hopelessly into forbidden fantasies with people we know absolutely nothing about. And it could get worse because when we keep nursing these mental affairs, we could wake one morning and find out that the objects of our devotion is getting married, or leaving the country or joining the army.
Okay, maybe not expressly, but that’s the purpose of this post, to help you get your man crush to notice and hopefully fall for you.
So it’s about time we start making our moves, especially as women, regardless of the silly societal stereotypes that demands otherwise; if you see someone and you want them, let them know. Okay, maybe not expressly, but that’s the purpose of this post, to help you get your man crush to notice and hopefully fall for you. Here goes:
Get In His Focal Point
Some ladies are satisfied with planning a mental romantic getaway with the man of their dreams. So I’m just going to come out and say this; your desire for him must exist outside your mind. There is no point dying a thousand deaths each time he passes by you. Get up and get noticed. However, you have to be subtle about it. And strategic too. You should never walk up to a guy wearing a badge that says ‘hey, I’m so in love with you’, it may end up branding you as a desperate stalker. So look for a common ground. Where do you often meet? In a restaurant? At an office setting? Or in a hang out with mutual friends? You can try the traditional bump into him approach, or make a distress call. Ask for directions or seek an opinion or something like that. Lastly, I will leave you with my favourite, which works amazingly but is tricky to pull off. It’s the contrary opinion approach. You are in a group, a mutual friend stirs a conversation, he takes a stand, you oppose it without being forceful. Trust me, that will get him to notice you.
Wear Your Confidence
Okay, this is probably like stating the obvious, yet, I will take the risk of overflogging the issue. Darling, you need to wear your confidence like a fragrance that lingers long after you are gone. And you can’t really pull that off if you are all goose bumps and butterflies. So erm, can you put a leash on those emotions and just be yourself? Resist the urge to blink, or stammer when he talks to you. Look him in the eyes and hold his gaze. Smile. Dazzle him. You know you’ve got it in you. And above all, hold your own. That’s the best part of being confident. Know what to say. You don’t have to be an Einstein, but hold your turf in the conversation.
Play the Friend Card
This is probably one of the oldest rules in the book, but that’s because it is timeless and true. You should bear in mind that your crush has created room to accommodate you as an acquaintance. There is no telling if he is in a relationship or is looking to be in one. Do not give up any romantic vibes. Hold yourself please. Just be his friend. Earn his confidence, slowly creep into his circle and wrap yourself around his consciousness. If he is married or in a relationship, you would have saved yourself the horror of a disappointment. If he is available, you score points by getting to know him and his sense of expectation in a relationship.
Flirt
Yes, I know I said to play the friend card, but you don’t want to be stuck permanently in the friend zone. The last thing your already crushed heart can take is for him to introduce you to girls he considers ‘hot’. So as much as you remain friends, occasionally hint at possibilities, drop ideas of you two as an item enough for him to think or make a move. You are a woman; you know how we do these things. Lean in, stir his appetite, and then, lean back.
Finally, under no circumstance should you cheapen yourself or let anyone undervalue you. If after all this, he still doesn’t see your worth, breathe in, breathe out, count your losses, and take a walk. You can stay friends with him, but employ your heart in more profitable ventures. The right man will come along. They always do!
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