I have often heard men repeatedly say that they do not understand women much less understanding what we want in relationships. There was this particular image that was shared around on social media platforms. It is the picture of a book with a very lengthy volume and a title which simply read ‘Understanding Women’. But the catch wasn’t in the volume of the book, but rather on its empty pages. Your guess is right; it was suggestive of the fact that understanding women is an exercise in futility. Well, something like that.
Quite frankly, I have had enough of these childish puns because while they are somewhat amusing, they are also largely untrue. A woman is not a financial statement that refuses to balance out. She is not a scientific theory to be tested or a mathematical problem to be solved. Haba! It doesn’t take a genius to get women. It just takes a man who is willing to look beyond himself and apply a little effort to appreciate what he has. Luckily, I am here to offer 7 simple things your woman wants from you. Seriously, you no longer have to worry yourself incessantly about what a woman wants. Take the advise shared below and you will thank me for it…Eventually!
Be honest. Lies are like termites that eat at the trust in any relationship. Don’t lie to your woman. Not when you want to please her or when you make a mistake you think you need to cover up. Whether the truth is bitter or better, always say it as it is. Your integrity is like a soft pillow on which your woman can rest and revive her youth. Okay, the integrity part sounds a pit dramatic but you know what I mean. No lies. Simple!
Loyalty. I used to think this was pretty obvious until I watched a man take sides with his wives’ friend in front of her. You may be mentally working up an excuse for that kind of behavior, but trust me, it is just inexcusable. Your woman needs to know you are on her side, always- emotionally, especially. Choose her over everything else, and I dare say, anyone else. Whether it is with your friends or your mother, make a decision not to rebuke her in front of anyone. You can have that session later, in private. Agreed?
Leadership. For many women, nothing is quite as attractive as a man who knows a thing or two, about a thing or two, on how to lead. No matter how exposed, intelligent or sophisticated your woman is, she wants to be able to run her ideas by you and get productive feedback. Emphasis on feedback, not dictatorship. Improve yourself enough to be able to lead your woman. While a relationship is not in any way a competition, always try to be ahead in every aspect. It’s not just enough to win her heart, you must win her respect and her trust/followership.
Listen. Stop sleeping off in the middle of conversations or blanking out when the topics don’t revolve around food, football or sex. Just stop it! While I think a woman should be intellectually robust, the truth is, sometimes she will want to talk about matching colour of the tiles with the table cloth, or the latest affair in her office. We are that versatile. Try to listen with actual unfeigned interest and occasionally chip in a witty remark. Be her friend dammit, be her friend.
Independence. Do you seriously have to run to your mother every time you have an argument? Your woman needs to know that you are man enough to stand tall, on your own and take decisions about your lives and relationship, on your own. It is also not very attractive if as a grown man, you are still receiving support from home. Family money or not, do your own thing, make your own progress, be independent.
Romance. This should probably be No. 1, 2 and 3. That’s just how important it is. Don’t give up courtship just because you married her. Do a little chocolate, or flowers or random text message. And uhm, while we are on this point, you should know that many women find monetary gifts or benefits sexy. Not that they don’t make a living, but just because a generous man is something to be proud of.
Looks. This is hardly an issue with many men , but still, what’s with the pot belly, overgrown armpit hair, smelly foot repeating a pair of boxers for two weeks at a stretch? Please make an effort to look and smell good.
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