Eight Types of Relationships You Must Leave in 2015

I love New Years. There is a kind of energy it brings.  You know, like a passionate appeal to live life on a grander scale. Everyone is more focused, more resolved with their goals, more reflective and well, generally more serious about improving their quality of life. This zest usually lasts up till the third week in January, then the fire completely burns out and we settle back into the rat race that is metropolitan existence. So in the spirit of New Year, inspiring resolutions and smart choices, here is a list of the type of relationships you must walk away from. Why? Because you deserve more than meaningless scraps and crumbs in the love department, you deserve the best. You deserve a partner who will shape and mould you into becoming a better person and the way to make this happen is by identifying the time wasters and then walking away from them.

Let’s get to them:

1. The Serial Dependent: There are ladies with no shame; pout lipped females who go from demanding exotic trips to begging for property, N400 naira recharge card and money for their sanitary pads. The only thing more disgusting than this is a man who leans back, hangs his feet on the table and allows his woman pick his bills. I mean, whatever happened to human dignity? I know love is about giving, but there has got to be more to you than a bank statement. For crying out loud, you are not an ATM machine, and you deserve someone who sees you as more than an avenue to get their needs met. If you are in a relationship and you constantly feel used in this capacity, maybe you need to re-evaluate or take a walk.
2. The Intimidated: I have been involved with people in this category. Soulless individuals with no passion, no dream and no ambition. But as if that is not bad enough, they tend to get uncomfortable if you hint at wanting something more tangible than hugs and pronouncements of undying affection. So I’m just going to come out and say this: run from anyone who is intimidated by your success of dreams. Don’t even think about it, just run!
3. The Non-Sticker: I once bought a car sticker which just refused to, erm, stick. I think there was a manufacturing defect, because the paper was just not made of stuff that would stay on. Some people are like that, they have no intention to commit. And my friend, this is a dangerous place to be. The truth is, any man who wants something serious with you knows this within the first six months. If it is taking him four years to decide, he probably will never. A lady knows within six weeks if she wants to date you, if it’s taking her a year to give you an answer, it is probably because she is simply not convinced. Non stickers are great time wasters because they give you an illusion of what could be and by the time you realise, it is late, or almost. If you are in this sort of relationship, please take a walk.
4. The conceited: Some people think they are God’s greatest gifts to humanity, and to their partners. And so they are constantly reminding you of how blessed you are to have them in your life, or how miserable your life was before they came into the picture. If a man or woman thinks they are doing you a favour by being with you, darling! It’s time to get out!
5. The Comparer: Does your relationship constantly feel like you are being tested and constantly falling short? Somehow, no matter how much you try, you never seem to do it better than your partner’s ex? So this is my theory, if you are with someone who constantly compares you with your ex, then you might need to have your head examined. Under no circumstance should you allow anyone reduce you to a prototype of their past. The next time they run a comparison, send them back to that ex.
6. The Cheater: I have absolutely no tolerance for people who cannot stay faithful in a relationship. And while we are at it, you should probably know that anyone who cannot stay faithful in a relationship, cannot stay faithful in a marriage.
7. The Workaholic: I know he/she cares for you and is working to provide for you and all other blah blah excuses, but he or she better learn how to ration their time. A relationship is after all about relating. If you constantly feel like you are competing with their job or getting leftovers of their time, it may be time to re evaluate.
8. The Manipulator: All this twisting your arm around your emotion is so tired. If a person has to resort to emotional blackmail to get something from you, then you simply should not be with them. Period!

Of course you know there are no absolute rules, this list is just to help you evaluate your relationships and count the cost of your staying or better still, the freedom and promise of your leaving. Like I said earlier, you deserve the best, so don’t settle for less.