Must Have Conversations In A Relationship

There are certain topics that can’t be discussed on first dates. Topics like ”how many kids you want”, ”what is your wedding color?” ”what do you like eating before work?”, etc.— These topics aren’t exactly appropriate for first dates conversations.

But by the time you guys start getting all serious in the relationship, there are certain subjects you absolutely must discuss if you’re going to continue to build a healthy partnership. Here is a guide to navigating some of those inevitable, cringe-worthy conversations with your main man or lady.

1. Let’s Talk About The Money Baby; Every serious couple should have a discussion about the funds. If you haven’t however, it’s high time you both spoke about this. Both partners should at least know what the other earns and how they make this money, how they spend their paycheck and what is rather important to them when it comes to money. This way, both parties can discuss how to run the joint account if hats the case or stand alone without having financial issues in future.
2. How Do You Want It; Maybe you two have already done the deed a million times. That doesn’t necessarily mean you know exactly what your partner wants and likes in bed, and it’s probably a good idea to find out. Relationship experts say perceived (as in, how well you think you guys work out s*xually) can make or break a relationship. Maybe she has a secret fetish she still hasn’t shared with you; maybe you’ve been afraid to tell her you’re intimidated by how often she wants s*x. Whatever your preferences, be as open and as non-judgmental as possible during the discussion. In fact, let’s be honest.
3. The Family; Sometimes, almost all in-laws can drive us nuts. You can tactfully minimize the conflict between you and your partner’s relatives by taking the time to talk about your relationships with your respective families. Your partner may be used to telling his mother everything and taking all her advice, and expect you to do the same. You, on the other hand, may have no interest in taking tips from your boyfriend’s mom. Make sure to be honest and clear about the role family plays in each of your lives and be as explicit as possible to your partner.
4. The Future Talk; Do you both want kids? Are you both planning on moving outside the country? Do you both plan on getting married? What do you guys plan on doing with your career? The future is somewhat scary to even think about let alone talk about with your new romance. But, making sure that you and your partner want the same things is important. If you both are of totally different futures planned for yourselves, chances are you’re probably not meant to be with each other for a long-term. It can be a weird conversation to have because you don’t want to scare them off with pressures of the future, but there is no denying there is a bigger picture here.

1. We Need To Talk; Bringing up something that bothers you about your love is undoubtedly stressful. Did your partner like a selfie of an ex on the Instagram? Does he have an annoying habit of leaving the toilet seat up or procrastinating on important things? Does her constant need to critique everything you do drive you nuts? Does She spend too much time on makeup? Does he spend too much time with his friends? You’re probably holding off on bringing it up, because although certain things bother you, you don’t want Bae to read too much into it and feel badly about this. When mentioning their crazy habits, note it calmly and ASAP to avoid an explosion of frustration. Don’t add anything unnecessary hurtful, and don’t take it as an opportunity to bring up past mistakes. Be kind about it, and if it ends in a fight, cool off, hug, kiss and then have some great make-up s*x

Maintaining a healthy relationship can be hard work. It’s easy to focus on the fun and happy aspects of a relationship, but no one ever talks about the more difficult elements that ultimately provide a realistic balance. Not every couple goes through the same situation, but whatever is going on in your relationship, it’s important to be open and honest about it.