All That Glitters

I once used to have a friend that felt all that glitters is gold. Well, she was a lucky girl, nice body to die for and a good command of English. Things fall in place for her whenever she wanted thanks to her coke bottled body.
Men would stop by us just to talk to her and often i would wonder if i wasn’t pretty too or my body wasn’t a die for

After a while, i overcame the thoughts that i wasn’t good enough. I would even laugh at her whenever she came complaining about how her phone keeps ringing  and sometimes, she does not even have an idea of who is calling her. She loved the attention though to add and always wore cloths to flaunt her curves.

Then she met this young man. Tunde was well exposed, well traveled and was a banker. Well i wouldn’t know if he still is because i have not bothered to find out about him since i stopped talking to my friend. Tunde would call her and they would talk for almost 24 hours. I was happy for her that she had finally found someone who has come to love her for who she is and not her assets. Then, they started dating and she seemed the happiest person ever. Two months and they were already talking marriage. I felt it was too early but i did not want to be a kill joy. Before i could explain what was happening, he had proposed.

Wow!!

I could not contain my joy when he went down on one knee that fateful evening at a fancy restaurant somewhere in V.I. asking her to marry him. I was so happy for her that i was the one who shouted yes yes yes making everyone laugh before she then said yes. Aww how i kissed them both and then was convinced fully that Tunde sure was for real.

Wedding preparations were going crazy and then we had two weeks more to the wedding but Tunde had traveled for work and was to return a week before the fixed date when suddenly, from nowhere my friend started getting strange phone calls that Tunde is married. Surprising huh? We thought is was some prank he pulled up because he had pulled so many all in the name of ”trying to know how much you love me” Then she started calling him when it was becoming unbearable and he would not pick up nor respond to text messages and after a while, her number was blocked.

This was the most devastating moment in her life. She would cry all day and night and kept calling the numbers she had, hoping one day, it would go through or he would call her. Then the greatest shocker came forth. I was at work that Monday morning. It was the wedding’s week when i got a text from an unknown number saying he did not know how to explain things to my friend but his baby mama just put to bed and he has been forced to marry her. Hence, he can’t marry another due to his family. I was dumbfounded. I kept asking myself questions upon questions.

”Was that Tunde?”

”Am i dreaming?”

”What is going to happen to my friend now?”

So many things came to my head at the same time. I didn’t know how to break it to her so i called her elder sister who is married with kids and asked to see her. When i got to her house, she had to calm me down before the tears stopped then, i showed her the text i got. She could not believe her eyes but acted more mature then called the number. A lady picked the call and said Tunde had gone to work and she was his wife. We could even hear a baby cry then she said she had to go now but would tell Tunde someone called but confirmed that she sent no text message with that number and that fact that it is always at home.

Sigh…

Deep really. We had to drive down to my friend’s parent’s house then narrated what had happened to the mom. Oh how her mother cried so bad that i couldn’t control myself too. Eventually, we planned on how to tell her and broke the news to her when she got back home. She was devastated and blamed me for setting her up. Asking how i was the one who got the text and reminding me of that fact that i never liked Tunde in the first place so i knew he had a pregnant girlfriend and so convinced him to go marry her and leave my friend alone like i was going to marry her.

This was how we ended our friendship even though i still talk to the rest of her family very well like it’s not possible to stop because they are family.

I realized after all these saga that sometimes, we do over react. The best you can do for a friend in a relationship is to love her lover as much as you love her. You do not want to be caught up in something you cannot defend yourself about.

Right now, i only hope she is happy wherever she is even though i know she now keeps to herself as i still ask after her from her sister and only wish she could let bygone be bygone and allow love again as i know this time, it will be real because i care.

As for Tunde, All the best.